Gotta admit, I’m absolutely bricking it about losing my hair. My temples have been creeping back the past few years. Most people probably wouldn’t notice since my hair’s thick enough that growing it out a bit covers it. But the idea of going bald in my late 20s genuinely terrifies me. I even photoshopped myself bald once. Looked like some dodgy bloke you wouldn’t trust near a school.
I’ve never had amazing hair and I don’t tie my whole identity to it, but I know I wouldn’t feel like myself if it went. Loads of blokes feel the same.
Thing is, why’s it seen as weak or insecure for a man to care about how he looks? Let’s be honest, most lads don’t look great without hair to frame their face. Sure, with enough effort you can go for that “tough bald bloke” look like The Rock or Statham, but it’s completely fair to want to feel like you’ve still got the choice to look sharp, like Bale or someone, instead of feeling boxed into one image just because you’re losing hair.
The weather’s dull as ever, bit of a rainstorm rolling in. Saw this offbeat bloke making some odd observation about it all, straight-faced like it mattered. Comes across as a poor, worthless attempt at sounding deep, but I suppose it’s workable if you’re that kind of person.
When you’re losing your hair, the best thing is to just own it. People say men who stress over it are weak, but really they’re just seen as lacking confidence.
I reckon it’s less about the hair loss itself and more about how you carry it. Look at all the bald badasses out there.
My uncle was stressing over his thinning hair for a bit, then one day he just said screw it and shaved it all off. Showed confidence without even trying. Now he rides a bike and looks like a proper badass.
Why is it seen as vanity just to want to look normal?
I’ve got no issue with ageing. I’m fine with a mature hairline, a few wrinkles, even going grey. None of that changes your face all that much. You still look like you, just older. But going bald can completely change how you look.
Think about it. Imagine George Clooney with no hair. He’d go from a proper silver fox to looking like some dodgy bloke you’d cross the street to avoid.
Now picture Patrick Stewart, Jason Statham, Bruce Willis, Dwayne Johnson, Vin Diesel, and Samuel L Jackson all with that same daft haircut. George Clooney with a clean shave would still be a damn good-looking bloke. No one looks good with a rim, let’s be honest.
Being bald’s not a big deal. Just means you’ve got testosterone.
And looking like a serial killer isn’t the end of the world either. Some women are into that.
Men don’t look like paedos, that’s just media nonsense trying to wind us up.
There’s nothing you can really do, and it’s not your fault. So just chill.
As for your question, it’s not balding that makes you seem weak. It’s getting worked up over it. Don’t feel insecure about how you look, even if you reckon you look rough. Most blokes get by just fine.
Nah, it just means your body makes a lot of DHT, which is a byproduct of testosterone.
Key word there is “some.”
And yeah, some do look a bit dodgy, mostly the ones who are already balding.
I’m 18 and thinning pretty badly on the crown and temples. Been thinking about finasteride but the side effects are a bit scary. It’s either that, maybe regrow a bit and thicken it up, or just shave it short and get on with it.
I’m 23 and going bald myself. Hair’s been thinning and creeping back every week for the last three years. It’s rough, and yeah, it’s not exactly a hit with the ladies. It’s not about confidence either. People say I’ve got loads of it, and I know I do. It’s just the way I’m losing it that makes me feel less attractive. Not insecurity, just being real.
I’m not quite ready to make the switch yet, but when I do, I’ll wear it with pride. Like you said, don’t let your hair define you. Just be yourself and let it be one part of the whole.
One day, lads won’t have to go bald at all. But till then, looks like it’s you and me joining the proud bald crew.
I get why people see blokes who worry about their hair as weak, but that’s just the norm we need to break. Men are human too, and there’s nothing wrong with caring about how you look.