We’re both in our early 20s and have been together for around two years. His hairline’s started to recede a bit and he’s been making little comments that show he’s feeling a bit insecure about it. I want to say something that reassures him and lets him know I still think he’s an absolute catch, hair or not. I’d love a few responses to have on hand, some serious and some a bit cheeky, so I can back him up no matter the mood.
I started going bald when I was 19 to 20. Not just hairline receding, I mean, by the time I was 21 I was bald with a crown. That kinda sucked, but I didn’t have too much of my ego wrapped up in my hair. I still would get a bit self conscious about it.
My advice is to not mention it unless he does.
When he brings it up, I’m not at all joking, say and do the following: “The only bald head I care about one way or the other is in your pants. Take it out and let me show you [add phrase “when we get home” if need be].” Then follow through.
I know a lot of people joke about blowjobs and sex being the solution to all male problems, but it really did help to have someone demonstrating a ravenous appetite for me when I was feeling self conscious about losing my hair.
It’s really reassuring to know there are loads of people who’ve been through the same sort of thing. He’s a confident bloke for the most part and cares more about personality and brains than looks, but we all have our wobbles now and then. I just want to be there for him when those moments hit.
That’s a cracking line. Definitely saving that one for later. And don’t worry, he knows he’s very much wanted. 
Any compliments about him being sexy, good-looking, or handsome will go a long way. Just make sure you’re not only saying those things when he’s feeling down. If the compliments only come out when he’s feeling rough, he might start thinking you’re just saying them to cheer him up, not because you mean it—which could make him feel even more self-conscious.
And as always, actions speak louder than words. If you say he’s a total stud, show him. Give him a look, grab his hand, and make it clear you fancy him rotten.
There’s nothing you can really do to stop hair loss, so suggesting vitamins or seeing a doctor doesn’t make much difference.
The best thing you can do is tell him straight up that he looks great bald. Keep it simple and honest.
I’d say a bit of both, depending on the moment. If he’s clearly feeling a bit fragile about his hair, it might feel more natural to focus on other features like his eyes, jawline, or smile. Something like, “Your eyes are doing all the heavy lifting anyway” keeps it light and flirty.
If he’s more open or having a laugh about it, then something like, “You actually pull this look off better than most” or “You’ve got the head shape for it, lucky you” can really help. The trick is making sure it sounds like you mean it, not like you’re trying to soften the blow.
Mix those in with compliments about who he is overall—his personality, humour, all of it. Then it never feels like damage control. It just feels real.
You can definitely include compliments about his hair, as long as they’re genuine. If you’re into it even with the hair loss, then absolutely say so.
Just bring it up and steer the conversation elsewhere. Nothing is going to stop the hair loss, really. It’s a bit like when a woman asks, “Is my bum too big?” Same idea applies. The only difference is that exercise can tone a bum, but there’s not much that fixes a receding hairline.
Mate, listen up.
Going bald’s not the end of the world. Happens to loads of blokes, and the only way it becomes a proper issue is if you get embarrassed and try to hide it.
You can’t cover it up. All that does is make you look a bit sad. Comb overs, hairpieces, wearing a hat every day—it’s all a waste of time.
You’ve got two real options. Either genuinely stop caring or shave it off.
And I’m telling you now, just shave it. The younger you do it, the better. Pass this on to your fella.
Here’s the thing. If you shave your head in your twenties, you’re not that poor lad losing his hair. You’re the confident one with a clean look. When you get older and go fully bald, no one bats an eye. You’ve been pulling it off for years.
Now, shaving your head properly isn’t as easy as it sounds. Getting it smooth and tidy takes some practice. If that’s too much effort, get it done by a barber. If even that feels like a faff, your second choice is to not give a toss.
That one’s tougher. You have to really not care.
I’ve got a mate at work. He’s balding fast. Hair’s thin and nearly see-through. Gets it trimmed once a month, nothing fancy, no product. Why? Because he truly doesn’t care. He’s not pretending or putting on a show. He keeps it neat and gets on with his life.
If you can do that, you’re solid. You’ve got better things to worry about than your hair.
Trying to cling on—taking pills, rubbing in ointments, fussing with styles—is a waste. Put that time and money into the gym, a weekend away, or a proper nice dinner. Something that matters.
Look at Jason Statham, Vin Diesel, The Rock. None of them are stressing over hair.
I’m 37. My crown started going last year. I grabbed the clippers and that was that. No more worrying about wind, haircuts, or gel. I’ve got better things to deal with.
So tell him straight. Shave it. Learn to do it well or get it done regular. But just shave it and crack on.
The right answer to that is always one of two things. Either, “You’re gorgeous,” or, “If it’s bothering you, I’ll come to the gym with you. Your health matters to me.” Always stick with one of those.
I like your way of thinking, sir. He’s not quite at the shaving stage yet, but it’s definitely something to keep in mind for later. And when that time comes, you can bet those hot, tough celebrity names will be flying around like nobody’s business.
Exactly, same goes for hair loss. It’s out of your hands. No amount of gym time will fix it. Everyone feels a bit self-conscious about it, so it’s best handled with care and a bit of tact, just like anything else sensitive.
Pro tip, don’t go validating his worries. What you want to do instead is gently brush them off. Show him there’s nothing to be concerned about.
He’s absolutely allowed to feel self-conscious. Hair loss can really affect how you see yourself, and for some people, it does take a toll on how attractive they feel. I get not wanting your partner to sugar-coat it with things like “it doesn’t make you look worse,” because that can feel dismissive in the long run.
You’ve got the right approach. Just let him know you still find him attractive. That simple reassurance can go a long way. And if you’re already showing him love and affection, then just keep doing what you’re doing. Sounds like you’re handling it well.
Patrick Stewart. That says it all, really.
Maybe I didn’t word that quite right. What I meant was, I don’t want to brush off how he’s feeling. He’s got every right to feel a bit self-conscious, especially with all the pressure blokes get about looks and that. I just want to let him know it’s okay to feel that way, but also remind him he’s still proper handsome, hair or no hair. Got any tips on how to say that without sounding too cheesy?
Balding’s basically just bald with extra steps. Let’s be honest, once the hairline starts creeping back, you’re already halfway there. And yeah, the whole “Rule #1: Be attractive” thing definitely plays a part. If OP’s fella’s got a receding hairline, it’s all about how he carries it. Confidence makes the biggest difference – far more than whatever’s left on top.
Too right. Man’s got presence for days. Bald or not, he’s still in charge of my starship.
I reckon he’d love that. “Rule #1: Be attractive” thing definitely plays a part. If OP’s fella’s got a receding hairline, it’s all about how he carries it.”
Spot on. Instead of saying something like that, which kind of implies there’s something to overlook, better to say what you actually mean. His hair’s still sexy to you. Let him know loads of women fancy blokes with receding hairlines. It’s not just kind, it’s true.