I’ve always had thin, fine hair, and it only seems to be getting thinner. It’s a mess. It’s also getting lighter, probably from the chlorine in the water, but I digress. Right now, it’s still acceptable. I don’t have obvious bald spots, but my part is widening, and I can only wear my hair down because anything else exposes my scalp.
I do have a boyfriend despite this. I’m pretty sure he knows about my hair loss. I have so little hair, and he’s seen it wet. I also catch him looking at my hairline. I just feel scared to bring it up. He’s 25 and dealing with hair loss himself, so maybe he’d understand?
I die inside a little when he strokes my hair, especially when strands fall out. Post-sex, it’s even worse. it tangles terribly, and my crown looks way more exposed. Not exactly attractive. Sometimes the hair on top of my head does this odd thing where it parts horizontally, and under harsh lights, you can see more scalp than I’d like.
I probably have androgenetic alopecia. basically male pattern baldness for women. It usually kicks in after menopause and wrecks self-confidence. But try dealing with it at 25. Mine is already at rock bottom.
I’m also pretty average-looking, so I can’t even say I have other features that make up for it. And this is only going to get worse.
A good mate of mine had alopecia, and within a few months in her 20s, she lost all her hair. It was brutal. she struggled with feeling unattractive, questioned what it meant to be feminine, and had a rough time adjusting.
A couple of years ago, though, she met a cracking bloke, properly good-looking and absolutely besotted with her. They’re clearly meant to be, and now they’re getting married.
If I saw you in a bar or café and your hair looked like you’d been tearing it out in frustration, I probably wouldn’t be rushing over for a chat.
If I met you and your hair looked decent, even if it was a bit thin, I’d give you a chance and get to know you. And once we’re at that stage, I couldn’t care less what state your hair is in. If I like you and find you attractive, thinning hair is the last thing on my mind. Even if you were balding, it wouldn’t matter. It’s the person that counts. If you’re kind, decent, and a good fit for me, then hair loss is irrelevant. You can’t control it, so why should I judge you on it?
I wouldn’t stress too much. Some people might be put off, but I reckon most wouldn’t bat an eye.
It wouldn’t be an issue. If I already liked you, it definitely wouldn’t change how I see you. And if it’s as obvious as you say, I’m sure your boyfriend’s noticed. better to talk about it than keep it bottled up. Personally, I think it’s perfectly normal to discuss insecurities and worries about things like this. I doubt he’d mind, as long as you’re not screaming at him. just mention it in a quiet moment, show him what you mean, and see what he thinks.
Even if I met you for the first time, I wouldn’t necessarily see it as a turn-off. After the initial surprise, bald or very short hair isn’t necessarily a bad look on a woman. Same advice as for balding men. figure out what suits you. Short hair or a buzz cut can be a great option.
How much hair matters really depends. Some guys don’t like women with short hair, sure. But most of us just like women who find a style that works for them, and short or bald can be one of those. Nobody worth knowing would give you grief over something you can’t control. Same goes for men!
I’d have no issue with you wearing a wig. I really relate to this because I started balding at 21. It was a constant source of stress for me. At the time, I was also overweight and lonely, and felt like absolute rubbish 24/7. I’m on medication that’s done a great job keeping my hair. I’m a baldy in disguise. It only works as long as I take it, but it makes me happy, so I stick with it. If it stops working, I’ll make the best of what I’ve got, knowing I’m in a better place now.
It must be especially tough going through this as a woman. at least I knew plenty of other guys dealing with the same thing. I really hope you find something that works for you. It’s your life, but I’d definitely recommend talking about it. I opened up to my mum, and she was a huge help. Sometimes all you need is a reminder from someone close that things are manageable.
Back in school, I dated this punk rocker lass who shaved her head. surprisingly fit, to be fair. So no, not a deal breaker. It was her drug problem that killed it.
Own the bald look. seriously. I know it’s not the easiest to pull off, but it’s mostly about confidence. If you wear it with pride, I reckon you’ll pull it off just fine.
I can only speak for myself, but it really doesn’t matter. Some things you can change, some things you can’t. If you’re confident, have your own personality and style, and just own it, that will leave a far bigger impression than a few underperforming follicles.
And if it truly bothers you? Get a wig. Simple as that.
For someone I love, this isn’t a deal-breaker. Not even remotely. If she wants to wear wigs to feel better, that’s fine, but from my perspective, it’s not necessary.
As for your boyfriend, when you’re both together and have a quiet moment, just tell him you need to talk about something important. Make sure he’s actually listening, TV off, no distractions. Good luck, stay brilliant, and just be yourself.
Had the exact same thing. Actually, I was in the exact same situation.
It shouldn’t be a deal-breaker for your boyfriend or anyone else because it’s treatable. And let’s be honest, it’s something he’s dealing with too.
Celebrities wear wigs and extensions all the time. nobody bats an eye. Every man is different. Just sit him down and have a frank conversation about it.
When I went through this, I used Revivogen PRO. A year later, my hair was back to how it used to be. Rogaine did nothing, and Bosley wasn’t for me, but Revivogen PRO actually worked. Worth a shot!
Women who lose their hair can wear wigs, and no one bats an eye.
Men like me, though? Lose our hair, and suddenly we’re seen as worthless and unlovable. If we wear a wig, we get laughed at. Feels like we can’t win. I hate this world sometimes.
As a man dealing with hair loss, I get it. But even if I’d never lost my hair, I don’t think it would have been a deal-breaker for me. I’ve always cared more about what’s on the inside than how someone looks.
